If I had a fully functional magic lamp, or if Jiminy Cricket appeared on my windowsill promising a wish on a star, I wouldn’t wish to win the lotto, or for money to grow on trees.
I’d ask for more time.
It’s such a shame to only have 24 hours in a day. Since more than a third of my day goes toward a full-time job, and another third goes toward my brain cataloging memories and refreshing its cells or whatever the heck it does at night, I must choose how I spend those remaining few hours wisely.
If I sent you a link to this post, or if I haven’t sent a personal response to your email, message, or tweet, please know that I’m flattered that you reached out. I’m sure whatever you need help with is really important to you.
Disappointing others is one of my greatest fears. Because of this, I say “yes” to things too often. But every time I say “yes,” I siphon time from my priorities. And as much as I hate this — because I know what it’s like to be in your shoes — since I’ve said “yes” to so many other things, unfortunately I have to say “no” to you.
I know you don’t think you’re asking for much. But if you knew how many people reach out to me asking for help, you’d understand how much time it would take to say yes to everyone.
Here are the things on my plate that I must prioritize:
In no particular order, here are the things that have to come first:
1. My full-time job at BookBub. It’s more than a 40-hour a week commitment. It’s my career. It pays the bills. I have people depending on me. And I love it.
3. My family. #1 and #2 alone basically mean I have two full-time jobs, and I also want to spend time with my family!
4. My critical partners. Part of my writing process includes getting critiques from CPs and beta readers, which means I need (and want!) to return the favor.
5. Other marketing tasks. On top of everything else on my plate, I also need to promote by books and brand to connect with potential readers. That involves sending email newsletters, blogging, publishing content to social media, and so on… and it’s very time-consuming.
6. My personal life. I like to have some semblance of a social life every once in awhile, and to exercise, read, and play video games. Otherwise stress will reduce me to a useless blob. And I really don’t want to be a useless blob.
7. We’re living through a pandemic. That means all of the above takes about ten times the emotional and mental bandwidth than it did In The Before.
So, I’m very sorry, but I simply must say no to you. As I hope you can tell, there aren’t enough hours in the day to allocate time to my personal and professional priorities and still make time to answer your question.
Thanks so much for understanding.
Here are some useful links based on questions I receive frequently:
1. If you need book marketing advice, you can read tons and tons and tons of my blog posts on the BookBub Partners Blog.
4. If you’re looking for marketing advice specific to your unique circumstances, I’d recommend posting your question to:
- The Absolute Write forums (for traditional publishing and writing questions)
- Kboards Writers’ Cafe (for self-publishing questions)
- The Inbound Marketers group on LinkedIn
- The marketing section of Reddit
There are tons of helpful folks on these sites who may have more time on their hands, and who’d be willing to share their expertise.