If I had a fully functional magic lamp, or if Jiminy Cricket showed up on my windowsill promising a wish on a star, I wouldn’t wish to win the lotto, or for money to grow on trees.
I’d ask for more time.
It’s such a shame to only have 24 hours in a day. Since more than a third of my day goes toward a full-time job, and another third goes toward my brain cataloging my memories and refreshing its cells or whatever the heck it does at night, I must choose how I spend those remaining few hours wisely.
If I sent you a link to this article, or if I haven’t sent a personal response to your email, message, or tweet, please know that I’m flattered you thought my opinion worth asking for, or my skills befitting of your needs. I’m sure whatever you need help with is really important to you.
Disappointing others is one of my greatest fears. Because of this, I say “yes” to things too often. But every time I say “yes,” I siphon time from my priorities. And since I’ve said “yes” to so many other things, unfortunately I have to say “no” to you. No, I can’t meet or chat on the phone to give you marketing advice. No, I’m not available for hire as a book marketing consultant right now. No, I can’t make something work correctly on your Facebook page. No, I can’t help you get a literary agent. And as much as I hate this, because I know what it’s like to be in your shoes, no, I can’t help.
I know you don’t think you’re asking for much. But when so many of you reach out asking for help, you’d understand how much time it would take to say yes to everyone.
Here are the things on my plate that I must prioritize:
In no particular order, here are the things that have to come first:
1. My full-time job at BookBub. It’s more than a 40-hour a week commitment. It’s my career. It pays the bills. I have people depending on me. And I love it.
2. My novels. I’ve written two novels so far. While I’m still working on getting them published, I’m also knee deep in my third novel.
3. My family. #1 and #2 alone basically mean I have two full-time jobs, and I also want to spend time with my family!
4. My crit partners. Part of my writing process includes getting critiques from CPs and beta readers, which means I need (and want!) to return the favor.
5. Other blogging/social media tasks. On top of everything else on my plate, I also should publish content here on DianaUrban.com and on social media to connect with potential novel readers and fellow authors.
6. My personal life. I like to have some semblance of a social life every once in awhile, and to exercise, do yoga, and read. Otherwise stress will reduce me to a useless blob. And I really don’t want to be a useless blob.
So, I’m very sorry, but I simply must say no to you. As I hope you can tell, there aren’t enough hours in the day to allocate time to my personal and professional priorities and still make time to answer your question.
Thanks so much for understanding.
Here are some useful links based on questions I receive frequently:
1. If you need book marketing advice, you can read tons and tons and tons of my blog posts on the BookBub Partners Blog.
5. If you’re looking for marketing advice specific to your unique circumstances, I’d recommend posting your question to:
- The Absolute Write forums (for traditional publishing and writing questions)
- Kboards Writers’ Cafe (for self-publishing questions)
- The Inbound Marketers group on LinkedIn
- The marketing section of Reddit
There are tons of helpful folks on these sites who may have more time on their hands, and who’d be willing to share their expertise.